Resources

Helpful books and articles

For individuals

What’s the Big Deal about Pornography? A Guide for the Internet Generation
(2008), Jill C. Manning. Shadow Mountain Press, Salt Lake City, UT.

Confronting Pornography: A Guide to Prevention and Recovery for Individuals, Loved Ones, and Leaders
(2005), Mark Chamberlain, Dan Gray, & Rory Reid (Editors). Deseret Book, Salt Lake City, UT.

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction
(2004). Mark Laaser. Zondervan Publishing, Grand Rapids, Michigan.

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior
(2001), Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin. Hazelden, Center City, MN.

Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage
Wendy L. Watson. Deseret Book

Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul
John Eldredge.

A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery
(1993), Patrick Carnes.

Don’t Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction
(1991), Patrick Carnes.

Forgiving Ourselves: Getting Back Up When We Let Ourselves Down
(2008). Wendy Ulrich, PhD. Deseret Book, Salt Lake City, UT

Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for A Lifetime Of Love
(2008). Susan Johnson

For spouses

Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
(2008), Stefanie Carnes, Editor. Gentle Path Press.

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner has been Unfaithful
(1994), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishers

NOT “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
(2004), Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli.

Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity
(1999), Emily M. Brown

Discussing Pornography Problems with a Spouse: Confronting and Disclosing Secret Behaviors
(2002 & 2005), Rory C. Reid & Dan Gray. Mental Health Publications, Salt Lake City, UT

How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To
(2004), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishing, New York, NY

Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal
(2001), Marlene M. Maheu & Rona B. Subotnik. Sourcebooks Inc., Naperville, Illinois

Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars
(1999), Marsha Means. Fleming H. Revell, Grand Rapids, MI.

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Melody Beattie, Hazelden

The Dance of Intimacy
Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY

The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY

The Dance of Deception: A Guide to Authenticity and Truth-Telling in Women’s Relationships
Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY

For couples

Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged By Virtual Infidelity
Geoff Steurer and Mark Chamberlain

Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for A Lifetime Of Love
(2008). Susan Johnson

Sex, Lies, and Forgiveness: Couples speak out on healing from sexual addiction
(2004). Jennifer Schneider. Recovery Resources Press.

Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World that Pulls Us Apart
William J. Doherty, Guilford Press.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
John M. Gottman. Three Rivers Press.

Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage
Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book.

Rock-Solid Relationships: Strengthening Personal Relationships With Wisdom from the Scriptures
Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book

Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality
(1999), Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser & Mark Laaser

Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual & Relationship Recovery
(2005), Patrick Carnes.

Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again
Michele Weiner-Davis.

The Peacegiver: How Christ Offers to Heal our Hearts and Homes
James L. Ferrell, Deseret Book.

Strengthening Recovery Through Strengthening Marriage: Healing from Pornography Addiction
6-part audio series presented by Dr. Kevin Skinner and Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT. Available at www.marriage-recovery.com

For parents

Pornified:How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families
Pamela Paul.

Protecting Your Child in an X-Rated World: What You Need to Know to Make a Difference
Frank York & Jan LaRue

Home Invasion: Protecting Your Family in a Culture that’s Gone Stark Raving Mad
Rebecca Hagelin.

How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex: A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child’s Sexual Character
Brenna & Stan Jones

Kids Ask About Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age
Edited by Melissa R. Cox & the Medical Institute for Sexual Health

Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Their Children about Sex and Character
Pepper Schwartz & Dominic Cappello.

Between Parent and Child: The Best-Selling Classic that Revolutionized Parent-Child Communication
(2003). Haim Ginott, Alice Ginott, and H. Wallace Goddard. Three-Rivers Press.

For clergy